Making ripples

Have you ever thrown a stone into a pond or river and watched the ripples spread out? They go on for ages and ages. I find watching these is a wonderful way to think about how we live our lives. The ripples affect everything they come into contact with and we never know what that effect will be. I send out balls of energy filled with love, peace and harmony, out into the world each week. These hopefully have a ripple effect and a good one.

The future is uncertain and we need to trust, to have faith and believe that things can change for the better. But there is another side to ripples. What happens when hate is sent out or anger? Does this also a have a ripple effect? If so then there is definitely a need for lots of change.

I live in a small sheltered housing community and it is noticeable how what one person says about a certain event, changes as the comment is passed on to others. A bit like Chinese whispers. This could also be called a ripple effect in some cases. As the comment is passed on more people worry about what is said so for me this is a ripple effect.

So thinking about what you say is also very good. Engage brain before opening your mouth is a good motto especially for those who speak without thought. I can see how words have changed peoples actions over time and have made people fearful too. I try to think carefully before I engage in some conversations to make sure I don’t upset somebody. But there are people around who need to have their perceptions of what life is about changed so that they become more aware of what is going on and how to deal with it.

So when you say something good let your words act like the stone in the pond and send out ripples of goodness. We all need good in our lives and love and peace. Let your words go out into the world and ripple all the way through it. Maybe we can make a difference.

Finding the joy in growing old

In the 1990s I often wondered whether I would live to see the 2000s and after that I wondered if I would live to be 70 and then still wondered if I would reach 80. So here I am aged 80 and life has changed. I do not believe though that life stops when you get older and there is nothing to do except watch the TV and snooze the day away. My mind is still active although my body is letting me down a lot recently. But I still try to get out in nature however painful it is to walk. I can see a wheelchair on the horizon but that might make it easier if I choose the right one. But I can still cloud watch, bird and butterfly watch though my window. I can still stand outside and breathe in the morning air and feel the stillness as dawn breaks. I can watch sunsets and sunrises and watch the moon through its phases.

I can still write, craft and draw but playing the piano is harder as there are not enough sockets so I can plug it in. (It is a digital piano). I am trying to record meditations via my computer but there is a lot of traffic noise so I will have to think about ways of getting rid of background noise. There is so much still to do.

I was lying in bed earlier thinking about the mountains. I have always loved the mountains and being amongst them. No longer able to walk them I can use my memories to give me joy and look at videos of them. Joy can be found in the simplest things like watching the spider spin its web and watching clouds change shape as they move along. Last week I saw one that looked like an angel and as it moved across the sky it became a large bird possibly an eagle.

Pain is part of my everyday life. I take painkillers in moderation. Pain tells you something is wrong so I listen to my body and decide what I need to do. If you are busy doing something you enjoy then you don’t notice the pain in the same way. What I do miss since my house move are deep discussions with others. Maybe I should start a social media group to discuss healing and the meaning of life etc.

But life is generally good and there is joy at least once a day and I have gratitude for that and for still being here able to enjoy the natural world around me even if mainly seen through a window. I try to get through the ‘feeling down’ times as best I can knowing that something better is ahead but that life can be difficult some times. Meditation and music help me with this. I have a deep love of music of all kinds and find that listening to music helps me tremendously.

So getting older can be a good thing as you find new ways to enjoy your life, it is not the end of your world.

Stop for a moment and breathe deeply

Looking around me I see people rushing around trying to get this or that before there is none left. This just makes things worse so stop, stand quietly and breathe deeply. All is well and there is enough for us all. Standing still and quiet allows you to connect with the earth beneath your feet. Connecting to Mother Earth is important and many have lost that connection. That connection allows you to feel safe and at one with the earth, our planet and enables you to think positively and take stock of what you are doing.

There is always more to a situation that you think. If you stand back and look at the whole picture then you can see what is really going on. This is very important in today’s world. We all need to understand how everything is connected and that one person is not responsible for the chaos around us. It is a combination of things which we have brought upon ourselves by not thinking or listening to what is really out there and happening in our world.

Mother Nature is bringing more chaos as volcanoes erupt , fires burn over large areas and earthquakes happen. And if we don’t change our ways, things will just get worse.

My eyesight is not very good this morning so this blog post is rather short but I hope the message is there. Stop, breathe and think before doing anything so that you make the right decision.

Autumn Equinox thoughts

It is that time of the year, equal day and night and now the hours of daylight get smaller as the hours of darkness increase. Outside in the woods there is a noticeable change as the leaves fall from the trees and turn various hues of yellow, red and brown The mornings are cooler too but there is still a lot of warmth in the sun. There are still a few butterflies and dragonflies around but not so many.

But there are changes ahead and the events of the last couple of years are leading to shortages of food, clothing and petrol as well as other things. The pandemic left us with a lot of changes some of which are not very good. But how do we deal with shortages of items we need? Well, many people just panic buy and when the rest of us go shopping there is nothing left even though there was originally enough for all of us. The same is happening with petrol as people not only fill up their tanks but fill cans as well leaving none for those whose car use is essential. The media does not help as they scare monger. As soon as they say something will be scarce, people chase off to grab all they can see of that particular item. They do not consider anyone else. Our society can be very selfish at times making sure they have what they want and never mind anyone else.

I have noticed that when I go shopping nowadays, I can never get all the items I would like and sometimes I cannot get those items I actually need. Has the concept of sharing disappeared? Do we think we are more important than anyone else? I do not have a car and rely on a volunteer car service and my son to get shopping and go to the dentist. I have another dentist appointment early next month so hope my volunteer car service are still available.

So overall my thoughts are not exactly cheerful at this moment in time. I accept changes as I must but I do hope that we get to see a better world during the few years I have left on this planet. There needs to be a change in perception of what life should be like and how we live.

Feeling guilty

There are many times in my life when I have felt guilty, sometimes for doing something I should not have done and at other times for not doing something when I could have done. Nowadays I tend to feel guilty for not doing things I should have done like help someone else with something but declining to help. Yesterday a friend here fell in the street and said that for some time no-one came to help her to get up but eventually someone did do just that. Would you pass someone in the street who had fallen and needed help to get up? I hope you would help. I would if I could do so but with my own physical problems it could be difficult and I would feel guilty about it.

A few weeks ago I helped to rescue a bat here in my housing complex but it took several days before I found someone to help and that only happened when I made a huge fuss on social media. Luckily the bat survived and has now been released but I would have felt very guilty if it had died as I feel I could have made more fuss earlier.

I sometimes feel guilty when I have to ask people for help and that means taking them away from doing something that is important to them. But should I feel guilty asking for help? I know people who take pride in making others feel guilty too by using words such as why didn’t you help or what did you think you were doing. They often turn the story around so the blame lies with you and you feel guilty. This is known as gaslighting and looking back at my life I can see that that kind of thing happened a lot especially with my mother.

So how do we deal with feelings of guilt? Each person will have a different way. I tend to look at why I feel guilty and acknowledge that feeling and also try not to do the same again. But it is often not that easy and maybe dealing with it is a subject for another blog post.

Spirituality and spiritual people

This blog post will be full of questions and suggestions. I hope you would like to respond to these so thank you in advance. First of all what do we mean by spirituality? There are several definitions on Google so here are two of them;

‘the quality of being concerned with the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things.’

‘Spirituality involves the recognition of a feeling or sense or belief that there is something greater than myself, something more to being human than sensory experience, and that the greater whole of which we are part is cosmic or divine in nature.’

As a druid I recognise that there is something out there larger than me and the rest of the world. It might be a god, or goddess, or just a great spirit. I am also very connected to the natural world and know that all is connected in one way or another. That is for me a way of life too.

So what is a spiritual person? Again let’s look at a definition from Google;

‘Being a spiritual person is synonymous with being a person whose highest priority is to be loving to yourself and others. A spiritual person cares about people, animals and the planet. … There are many people who do not practice a religion, who do not meditate, pray or belong to any group, who are very spiritual people.’

So how do people who read the tarot and oracle cards fit in with this definition and what about healing of any kind, how does that fit in? I can look at lots of things that people who are spiritual do like, yoga, meditation, drumming, chanting etc. Are these things spiritual in themselves or does it depend how you do them?

For me yoga is exercise rather than a spiritual practice but it is different for others I do know. Meditation is a spiritual practice for me though as is drumming. I like to drum with a purpose in mind, for healing or journeying or chanting but not otherwise. I could go on for a lot longer but I will stop here and hope that I get some responses to tell me how you think about spirituality and what a spiritual person is like.


It has been a busy week sorting out things after buying a used chest of drawers from a local charity. They are made of beautiful dark wood and large enough to put in all the stuff that has been in baskets and crates on the floor. So I put the empty crates and baskets on the landing outside my door. A visitor claimed the baskets and a neighbours children clearing out her flat claimed the crates. What a good way to get rid of things. Your junk is often someone else’s most wanted item.

However I get many comments about this asking why I am not selling these items but giving them away. I know what it is like to have very little money so I am happy to help others and see what I give away as a gift.

But this brings me to something else about giving away and money. Many years ago when I first became a Reiki Master Teacher I checked out the current level of charges for this. I
was amazed at some of the excessive prices charged and the advertising about someone’s teaching being better than another. For me Reiki was and still is a gift, one I am willing to share with others freely. But I still get ‘flack’ from others about this saying that I can charge for my time and get money that way. It is not about money! Healing energy is not about money at all. I have this gift and I wish to share it freely and when I train Master Teachers myself I always chose students who have what I considered to be an ethical attitude. I remember looking at a web site some years ago and there were so many different
59 kinds of Reiki all charging a specific sum of money for a distant attunement and a manual. To me that kind of teaching is not teaching at all but this topic can take me down a different road so I will stop there and get back to the giving away theme.

Is it better to give something away to someone who needs it or to throw it away in the rubbish? Our rubbish tips are full of unwanted items so recycling them has to be good. Is it better for me to give away these items now or store them until after I have gone when someone else throws them away?

There are many people in our world who are in great need at the moment due to unfortunate circumstances not of their own making. I am looking through my belonging to see what else I can give away to those in need. I have lots of knitted toys to donate to children who don’t have any. Some people give things away to make themselves look good but that is not for me. I genuinely believe that I help others in one way or another. I don’t need a reward or money only the word s ‘Thank you’. This blog was originally written several years ago but has been edited to make it up to date.

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Emotional times and hope

August has always been a difficult time for me emotionally for various reasons. Grief is foremost at that time even though those I grieve for may have passed over twenty years ago. There is also a deep sadness at their loss knowing what they could have achieved if still here. But these things are meant to be and you learn to live with their loss. It does get easier generally but there are times when I feel as if it was yesterday and the emotions run high.

As an empath, world events affect me daily and again I feel a deep sadness over recent events. I don’t feel anger as that would lead nowhere but I do feel this sadness at what has been happening all over the world. However I do have hope.

I have done a lot of reading and a lot of listening and I understand, and this is my point of view, that we all need to find our spiritual connection to the earth. We need to feel the earth beneath our feet, listen to what she is saying to us, listen to the trees and the animals that live on our planet. If we listen carefully then we can hear them and learn to do what they ask of us. It is quite simple really. Find that connection and the understanding that everything on our planet is connected in one way or another. You only have to think about what I was taught at school about the food chain and see how each species is connected to another species. We are the human species and we are connected to all the other species in some way or another. Find that deep contentment that comes from being in nature. Let your emotions flow into the earth to be healed and find joy amongst the trees and plants and the many insects some of whom have wonderful colours.

There is joy out there if you go outside and search. I find joy in the simple things like sitting on a seat overlooking a local lake and watching the birds on the water and seeing the dragonflies flitting about. Being by water is good for the emotions especially flowing water or the sea. It cleanses and heals too. So forget your anger and hate and go and find the joy outside in our wonderful natural world.

Food for health and food for thought

You know the saying ‘you are what you eat’. I often think about the meaning of it. I try hard to eat good nutritious food but it is not always available locally. I would love to be able to grow my own veggies as I have done in the past and I am looking for a way to do this next year in the grounds of the housing complex in which I live. I am sure I will be allowed some space for some large pots or growing bags. So how have I managed this year? I prefer to shop locally but sadly the content of my local supermarket has deteriorated over the last couple of months and I cannot find the food I prefer to eat. I suspect that they only have available the food that most people will buy. You can’t blame them but it doesn’t help me or other people who like good quality nutritious food. So I enlisted the help of my son asking him to take me shopping every few weeks to somewhere that I could buy organic veggies, fruit, and meat. I am a meat eater but I love fish more.

The taste of organic food is so much better that anything else and you don’t actually need to eat as much because it is more nutritious and fills you up quickly. So it is more expensive but you get what you pay for and I feel the expense is worth it. What might do me for 2 meals from the local store will do me for 3 meals when organic. So it is not necessarily more expensive.

I am also a believer in natural medicine, whether herbal of otherwise. I love essential oils too and the various salves that you can get that are 100% natural. I have been reading about natural antibiotics as I had to take some of those recently for an infection in a broken tooth. The infection has returned and won’t go away until the tooth is out in a couple of months time so I have been looking for something I can take or use to help. There is more out there than you think and it is worth the time searching through pages of knowledge to find what is right for you.

One thing that modern medicine ignores is that we are all different. We may all be human but we have different chemistry and biochemistry in our bodies. Our DNA is different and that also makes us unique so it is worth the time searching for what is right for you. This includes food and medicines. Doctors nowadays only allow one symptom to be discussed at an appointment. This is ridiculous as many illnesses have more than one symptom. As a friend once said, ‘I have one body and lots of symptoms.’ We should look at our bodies as a whole not in small pieces.

Finding calm in a chaotic world

Currently there are huge fires blazing away and destroying homes and forests, earthquakes also bringing destruction, heavy rain and flooding and extreme heat bringing drought. The world as we know it is changing rapidly. Much of what we have known is now crumbling around us. Things we have taken for granted are no longer secure and there are many who live in fear. Will they be able to keep their homes and live safely or will they have to leave and go elsewhere? Not only have we got a pandemic but we are getting these extreme weather and other natural events causing so much chaos.

But it is no good worrying about tomorrow as we do not know what tomorrow will bring. We do not need to worry about the past either although looking back at the past can show us how to avoid similar pitfalls this time around and learn from our mistakes.

Being in the present, living each day as it comes and making the best of it is important. Staying calm and showing others that we are calm helps others to become calm too. Sending love and peace out into the world each day and living that way ourselves also shows others that there is another way. Being calm and loving around others helps them to feel that way too and they then do the same and this in turn helps even more people to be calm and loving. A bit like the ripples on a lake or river when you throw in a stone and see the ripples spreading out for a wide distance.

As we experience the changes that are taking place now and those that are to come, staying calm, loving and peaceful is very important. Anger does not produce anything good and only makes things worse. As we stand together in peace, love and serenity we will be able to change the world to one we wish to have but this will not happen overnight. It could take several years for it to change to something better and for the crumbling walls to be built in a different way that benefits us all. Stay calm and send out that feeling to others. There is a better life ahead. We just need to be patient which for many of us is very hard. Change will come though and eventually it will bring a better world. But we have to get rid of the old to make space for the new.