Expectations and disappointment

I am often told that my expectations are too high. But if we don’t have high expectations what will happen? Expecting someone to do something well, encourages them to do well. If you expect them to fail then you are putting the thought of failure in their minds so they do fail.

Is it wrong to expect our water to be clean, our food to be healthy and uncontaminated, our clothes and houses to be well made? Is it wrong to expect our politicians to be truthful and care about those who vote them into their position of authority? If we are honest, caring, compassionate and loving, is it wrong to expect others to be the same?

There is a lot to think about on this topic. Going with the flow is good but should that stop us from expecting better things? Does going with the flow allow things to happen that are not good for us? Are there times when we have to make our expectations known to those in power so that the flow becomes better and smoother?

Recently my son and I have been growing plants from seed organically so that we can have a plant ‘sale’ for a brain tumour charity. Where I live, someone died recently from a brain tumour and we have all been trying to raise money by having bring and buy sales, running half marathons and so on. Currently I have around 100 plants in my garden area ready for new homes and my son has another 100 or so not quite ready to go out in the garden. We did not price them but asked for donations. 50 pence minimum was suggested. Some plants are perennials and in their second year so quite large and ready to flower. Others are a bit smaller but growing rapidly and will bring a lot of cheerful colour to a garden. I expected most people to donate freely and in most cases this is so. However there are those who don’t have the cash currently but will pay later. I get the feeling that having now got the plants that the money owing will be forgotten. None of these people are struggling for money and spend quite lavishly on holidays and other things so why is the thought of donating maybe a couple of pounds not acceptable? Last year my son and I did give plants away freely but decided to ask for donations to the charity this year but there are those who still want the plants for free. Are my expectation too high? I hope to raise at least £100 and there will be around 200 plants in total for ‘sale’. So this is where the disappointment comes in. But many thanks to those that have already donated some of them very generously.

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